Hiding From Love

How to Change the Withdrawal Patterns That Isolate and Imprison You

When you experience emotional injury, such as fear, shame, or pride, your first impulse is to hide the hurting parts of yourself from God, others, and even yourself. Often you’ve learned these hiding patterns during childhood to protect yourself in a threatening environment. The problem is that when you hide your injuries and frailties, you isolate yourself from the very things you need in order to heal and mature. What served as protection for a child becomes a prison to an adult.

In Hiding from Love, Dr. John Townsend helps you to explore thoroughly the hiding patterns you’ve developed and guides you toward the healing grace and truth that God has built into safe, connected relationships with himself and others. You’ll discover:

  • The difference between ‘good’ and ‘bad’ hiding.
  • Why you hide the broken parts of your soul from the God who can heal them.
  • How to make mistakes without fear of exposing your failures and imperfections.
  • How to obtain the joy and wholeness God intends you to have through healthy bonding with others.

Hiding from Love will take you on a journey of discovery toward healing, connected relationships, and a new freedom and joy in living.


“I was gripped by anxiety and panic attacks since my early teens, but didn’t realize it until my mid-40s. Once I hit bottom in my relationships, and had to face the facts, I turned to Hiding From Love and found the answer. My early childhood trauma had imprisoned me in a childish emotion that I had to overcome. I highly recommend this book to anyone that had a wrenching early childhood experience, such as alcoholic parents, abandonment, or abuse, and wants to begin to live life in close relationships rather than loneliness, shame, and guilt.”
M. Holt in Virginia

“There is a great paradox that Hiding From Love discusses and explains: We long for love, but there are those that hide and escape, and nothing can convince them to come out of hiding. You may say, “What is the benefit of coming out of hiding? I think I will just plow along and remain in hiding. It is so much more comfortable that way”. The benefit is the joy, the serenity and the connection that you so desire. You cannot go wrong reading this book. It is a very practical, skill-based book that is written with love, sensitivity, and compassion. The author is a highly spiritual and sensitive clinician, and his work is absolutely reliable.”
Rivka E. in New York