Tabitha telephoned her mother, who answered the phone weakly with hardly any voice at all. Concerned, thinking she was sick, Tabitha asked, “Mother, what’s wrong?” “I guess my voice doesn’t work very well anymore,” she replied. “No one calls me since you children left home.” No weapon in the arsenal of a controlling person is as strong as the guilt message. Daughters or sons with poor boundaries almost always internalize guilt messages leveled at them by their mother; they obey guilt-inducing statements that try to make them feel bad. Consider these: “How could you do this to me after all I’ve done for you?” “It seems that you could think about someone other than yourself for once.” “How can you abandon me like this?” “Maybe after I’m dead and gone, you’ll be sorry.” “How can you call yourself a Christian?” “Doesn’t the Bible say ‘Honor your parents’?” “You must really have a spiritual problem to be acting this way.” “You know how it’s turned out in the past when you haven’t listened to me.” “You have no idea how much I’ve sacrificed for you.” A mother who says these types of things is trying to make you feel guilty about your... Continue Reading »
Dr. Henry Cloud visits The Dave Ramsey Show as a guest to talk about one of Dave’s all-time favorite books, The New York Times bestseller Boundaries. In this video, part two of a two-part series, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dave talk about limitations, stewarding our boundaries, being purposeful, how boundaries relate to money, boundaries with grandparents, and more. Don’t miss the hilarious line at 6:45 into their discussion! Watch Part 1 of this insightful video with Dr. Henry Cloud and Dave Ramsey. Learn More about The New York Times bestselling book Boundaries by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
Dr. Henry Cloud visits The Dave Ramsey Show as a guest to talk about one of Dave’s all-time favorite books, The New York Times bestseller Boundaries. In this video, part one of a two-part series, Dr. Cloud and Dave talk about the definition of boundaries, taking responsibility, boundaries in specific financial situations, boundaries in leadership situations, and more. Watch Part 2 of this insightful discussion with Dr. Henry Cloud and Dave Ramsey. Learn More about The New York Times bestselling book Boundaries by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.