How To Have That Difficult Conversation

With Your Spouse, Adult Child, Boss, Coworker, Best Friend, Parent, or Someone You’re Dating

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don’t know how to have difficult conversations, and see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, take the principles from their New York Times bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

  • Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships.
  • Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation.
  • Provide tips on preparing for the conversation.
  • Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack.

This book gives actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!


“Does the mere word “confrontation” give you a stomach ache? This book gives practical, step-by-step advice on how to have difficult but vital conversations with people you are in relationship with. It outlines strategies for how to prepare, how to remain loving, and how to keep the conversation on track. Although it focuses on “big” conversations about matters that may have been brewing for a while, it is also useful for smaller, day-in day-out kinds of confrontations.”
Pamela S. – Atlanta, GA

“This is one of those books that helps you in more situations than you might expect. From a new marriage with kids to difficult co-workers, I have used a lot of suggestions in this book to help make things better. What I like about this book is how it gives a completely different way of approaching things and making the situations better versus coming out on top. You want every relationship to be the best it can be, and this book will certainly assist with that.”
P. Bradley in Arizona