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If your total score is: 0 – 7 You may lack important boundaries in your life. We can help! Based on your answers, you tend to let other people dictate your life and your decision-making process. For example, do you fear the disapproval of others more than your own discomfort? Is “peace at any price” your personal motto? Consider how making everyone else happy may be wearing you out. Worse, you might feel like you don’t have a voice in your own life. We can help!

If you read the book, Boundaries, you can learn how to say no and when to say yes in effective ways. Imagine being less manipulated by others and truly able to be yourself in relationships. Experience the freedom God intended for you. Boundaries make life better! Click here to get started.

If your total score is: 8 – 14 Your boundaries may come and go. How about a tune-up? Based on your answers, you’re aware of the importance in setting limits with other people. However, you might say no sometimes, but then default back to people-pleasing. Certain situations or relationships may cause you to over-commit your time and resources, which makes you feel frustrated. For example, you might be comfortable setting boundaries at work but struggle to set boundaries at home – or vice-versa.

We can help you address the specific areas where setting boundaries may be difficult, such as with your kids, your spouse, your dating partner, or your workplace. The following books take the concept of boundaries to a much deeper level to help you experience new levels of freedom. Imagine your life with boundaries in all the right places! Click the links below:

If your total score is: 15 – 20 You are comfortable setting boundaries in your life. You’re ready for the next step! Based on your answers, you seem comfortable setting appropriate boundaries with other people. You recognize potential relationship traps and take steps to avoid them. Your life has a level of freedom that people without boundaries aren’t able to experience.

Since you’re seasoned at establishing boundaries, now may be the right time to consider reconciling with someone who broke your trust in the past. For example, do you know how to reconnect with someone after a relationship has been strained? Do you know when someone is ready to be trusted again? Experience the joy of restoring an important relationship by reading Beyond Boundaries.


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1. Your mother invites you to come over for dinner, but you have other plans. Would you:*

2. Your spouse (or the person you’re dating) wants you to apologize for something you did. But, you don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. Would you:*

3. Your co-worker is about to miss a deadline and begs for your help finishing a project. You are also under a deadline to finish your own work. Would you:*

4. While you are out to dinner with friends, a child jumps onto your lap and treats you like a jungle-gym. Would you:*

5. One of your friends says that he can’t make his car payment this month, and you have lent him money a couple of times already. He asks you to loan him $200. Would you:*

6. You’re heading out the door for a long-awaited vacation when your boss drops a task in your lap. Would you:*

7. Your teen has a cell phone and loves to surf the web and text. Although you are paying the cell phone bill, your teen objects to you checking up on the usage. Would you:*

8. Your spouse or date is overweight and really enjoys eating fried food. At dinner before heading to the movies, the other person is about to order a hamburger and fries. Would you:*

9. You invite a friend with kids to stay at your home during a weekend get-together. But, as they leave, your home looks like a messy disaster area. Would you:*

10. Your spouse (or the person you’re dating) has a habit of spending too much money and going into credit card debt. Would you:*

11. Your child’s sports team or church youth group needs an interim leader. There are plenty of parents available, but no one is pitching in to help out. Your schedule is already full. Would you:*

12. Your friend tells several inappropriate jokes at a party in front of mixed company that you feel are offensive. Would you:*

13. A close friend whom you haven’t seen in months calls to cancel a lunch date at the last minute. She says she misses you and hopes to catch up soon. But, the cancellation leaves your schedule in a lurch. Would you:*

14. When you and your boss talk with upper-level management or key customers, he has a habit of taking credit for the hard work you do. Would you:*

15. You dread spending the holidays with your family because certain people tend to criticize your political or religious views. Would you:*

16. Your spouse or roommate hates to clean the home, so you have been doing more than your fair share of the housework. Would you:*

17. While you are riding in the car with a friend, she starts to text on her phone while driving. You feel unsafe and know that is illegal to text and drive in your state. Would you:*

18. You go on a vacation with other people. As you plan an activity for the day, everyone else decides to do something that you dislike. Would you:*

19. One of your friends says something negative about you in public. Would you:*

20. You’re at a movie theater watching a new blockbuster when people in the row behind you start making noise and distracting your attention. Would you:*